If I cannot change a situation, I change my reaction to the situation. If I no longer fancy being angry I stop and choose love instead. Why should I deny self-love only because somebody else acts strangely?
Well, if it was as easy as that... It only works, if the causing conflicting matter has been solved. Sometimes it is rather a thunderstorm or a volcano that needs to erupt before peace can arise. Unless issues are solved, forgiveness cannot flow. Such coherences have to be considered. There is no use in ignoring them or trying to bury them with love.
Love and humbleness are rather useful to observe things without being threatened. Humbleness enables us to step away from the ego and look from a higher perspective in order to see the bigger picture behind the scene. Humbleness protects us from our own emotional capers that throw us out of balance. Healthy humbleness leads to deliberate action from our center.
Self-love can always be practiced no matter how people around us are acting. One can observe further emotions and frequencies within oneself but always from a perspective of love.
Consequently, there is both, love and the full spectrum of frequencies that are also existing. Starting with anger, or sadness up to joy and happiness. All is valid, all needs to be experienced.
If it is not possible to remember remaining in the state of love there is a very helpful interim state, which is in the center of all emotions, a space that is neutral. That is where one can rest from all the emotional ups and downs. This is where piece arises all by itself and love arises all by itself. Within this space, we automatically regain strength and relaxation.
In order to consciously experience this neutral space there is an exercise called 'Pendulum of Emotions' where opposite emotions are deliberately created for a few moments. For example, first go to a state of rage then go to joy, then anger, then love, then sadness, then happiness and then remain in the space in between without any emotions. That is the neutral space, which can be called our center.
Hence, instead of creating love by force it is a lot easier to create the neutral space where love can arise all by itself, respectively where we are in balance.
At first, it might be exhausting to remain in the neutral space as we are conditioned not to do so and are confronted with old patterns. A reprogramming of our synapses is necessary in order to effortlessly be balanced and to let it be our default state.
If we are able to do so, then we can play with all the different frequencies. We can try out how it feels to react to certain situations in various ways. How does it feel to be lost in anger and how does it feel to be loving to oneself instead?
This does not necessarily mean that all our challenges in the outer
world disappear into nothingness. That would be a wrong expectation.
Instead, we still need the triggers in order to reestablish our new
patterns and to exercise to be loving to oneself, especially if rage
is growing strongly within us or if we are disappointed or angry.