2014/05/06: There are certain people in my life who repeatedly cause fury in me. Sometimes there are also events which date back a long time and still if I remember them I get annoyed with the person who made me furious. I quarrel with this person, reproach, accuse, judge, condemn et cetera et cetera … Briefly I enmesh myself in cursing the trigger of my fury and wanting to give this person my piece of mind.
Well, this can be helpful in some cases. On one healer's day the healer told us about a client. Her husband had been betraying her with his secretary for several months. All people in the company knew it. She was the last one to eventually find out.
The client wanted to blow off steam by making a scene and telling her husband off in front of everybody in the company including the secretary. Now, one can have different opinions whether this is a suitable measure. But when the healer asked the woman's Higher Self she was told it is exactly the right thing to do. Thus the healer had no choice but to encourage her client in her endeavor. The woman then went to the office and publicly expressed her great deal of anger.
In hindsight it would probably have become very difficult for this woman if there had not been an outlet for such strong emotions. If she had instead screamed her fury into a cushion or had beaten a punching-bag it probably would have lasted many years to loosen her accumulated emotional blockages.
Sometimes it is important not to suppress emotions but instead to find outlets. Although it is highly recommended to do this in consultation with one's Higher Self in order to find the best possible way.
Sometimes we might have missed the right timing to show a reaction within a situation maybe because we were too surprised, too afraid, or had no idea what a proper outlet for the fury could have been then. In order to correct something like that we could go to the past and revive the situation in our imagination. With the current knowledge we then say anything we would have liked to say in that situation. Even reprimand the other person so that accumulated emotions are let out.
If it concerns situations from childhood one can imagine to go back as an adult and to accompany one's inner child. The inner child is then protected and we as an adult reprimand the other person. Finally we figuratively hug our inner child while letting it know how loved it is.
These are some possibilities how to deal with blocked emotions. However, there are different stages of blocked emotions. Sometimes it is essential to find an outlet, and sometimes a solution with a certain person or situation is still needed, and sometimes it does not depend on a person any more that triggers our emotions but it is about removing the trigger points.
If it is a matter of removing the trigger points it is very helpful to decouple the incident from a strong emotion like fury, hurt, or fear. It is useless to waste many hours by being upset because then we stick to our pain without really solving the problem.
Decoupling an incident from the emotion is also useful if we feel grief for example in case of having lost a beloved person and grief is triggered every time we think of the person. If we manage to look at our grief separately then we have the possibility to transform it. We transform it by observing it, looking at it, sensing it, perceiving it, allowing it to be in order to eventually let go. If we then think of this person then there is no more grief because we decoupled the incident from the emotion.
This decoupling works with other emotions as well. If for example someone makes us very furious it might be useful to decouple the fury from this person and have a look at the mere fury.
There are methods to release emotional blockages. I would like to present one as follows: In this exercise hold the forefinger of the right hand briefly under the triangle of the chest, on the solar plexus area. Put the middle finger on top of the forefinger.
With the other hand place the forefinger shortly before the left ear at the height of the ear hole on that little hill there. Put the middle finger on top of the forefinger there as well. These are useful acupuncture points to release emotional blockages.
Then repeatedly say the word for the emotion like a mantra for some minutes, e.g. say fury, fury, fury, fury … The trigger is not relevant any longer. It is a matter of diving into the emotion only. Mostly during this exercise we are shown situations or events again which we tied to that emotion. Just observe, carry on with the mantra and let go.
I personally usually feel very relieved after this exercise. The fury vanishes. However, it is not about doing this exercise once and everything is solved forever. It is rather a tool that can be applied whenever we are subjected to strong emotions.
It is not like finding a single solution for everything and be happy and
lighthearted ever after and walk through life without challenges. We won't
be able to avoid our lessons but we can change the way we deal with them by
having a lot more possibilities at our disposal.