If our reality does not represent what we truly want then it might be useful to explore possible causes and find solutions in order to create change.
As already mentioned before, we live according to predefined patterns and ideas. These might originate, amongst other things, in our education, culture, or maybe we adopted them from our family system. These patterns are the basis of our day to day manifestations. We might therefore investigate which pattern is responsible for our actual condition. In order to do so, it is essential to fully accept the 'Now' because this is what already is, exactly the way it is. If we want to alter it in the future, we need to release the patterns that led us here.
Exercise: Be completely in the 'Now' and observe what is. Remember, it is you who created all this exactly the way it is. Try to look at it from this angle. Try to sense the current situation and try to figure out what it is you wanted to learn, experience, or realize through it because that is the reason you created it like it is now.
The more we step out of the victim's role and realize our creativeness, the more are we able to examine which bits of the past led to our current condition.
In order to figure out how manifesting works it is a lot more effective to consider the past instead of wishing something for the future and having to wait whether it comes true or not. If our wishes do not come true, we might even be disappointed and think we are not able to manifest. But, this is of course not true because we are permanently manifesting.
Further, it helps if the personal plan of our life is in alignment with our soul's plan. If we permanently manifest against our soul's intention this might sooner or later lead to dissatisfaction. We gain more and more contentment if we listen to our inner voice and be in line with our soul's mode of expression. Besides, patience is advisable. We do not always immediately gather the sense of our current experience. Sometimes it takes time in order to learn our lesson and release the unpleasant situation.
What we perceive as unpleasant might as well be a necessary push out of our comfort zone. Sometimes the biggest chaos on the outside is needed in order to find very deep peace inside. What we dislike from our personal point of view might be the biggest lesson.
Finally some suggestions for effective manifesting: Listen to the little inner voice showing you the way. Be open and receptive for new ideas. Trust and believe in yourself. You do have all you need within you. Be the authority telling you what is right for you. Receive all that happens as a gift and possibility for growth and development. All you need comes exactly at the right time.