We are used to act according to our value system. Imagine the following situation: We meet someone in the street who does not apply to the norm. This person might be crippled, maybe smelling unpleasantly, and wears worn our clothes. Our first reaction is probably one of rejection. We might feel disgusted. For some people the story ends here. Others might feel remorse because they remember having to 'love thy neighbor'. In the end there is something like moral and values.
If we then suppress our disgust and overlie an artificial love then we might feel pity for this person. However, pity is of no use for the recipient because the person then has to carry the projections of pity towards him or her additionally to his or her already existing burden.
Instead of placing a value system above our sensations, let us try something different: again, imagine meeting this person in the street. The person is of no harm but we feel disgust. Instead of suppressing our emotion, we do the opposite. We allow the disgust to be around and let it grow as big as it possibly can. We do not judge, we just observe. We are honest with ourselves and allow sensations to be, nothing else.
What will happen? By allowing our sensation to be and by paying appropriate attention, it dissolves. All it wanted was to be recognized and welcomed.
Next time we meet a peculiar person there is no disgust. Nothing deterrent remains because we allowed it to be. Maybe something different arises which wants to be acknowledged. Well, then we observe again. We repeat this as long as we have accepted all our sensations. Eventually nothing remains. There is nothing left … and then there is space, space for love. Love then simply arises because everything else disappeared.
The more we train this behavior the more sensitive we become, the more honest we deal with ourselves and our surroundings. We relearn to trust ourselves.
As long as we place our value system above our sensations, we do not encounter love. However, if we trust our sensations we do not need a value system. It is about releasing all that stands in the way of being love.